The examples below are intended to stimulate your own ideas rather than as rules. Why: Is the person about to make any major life changes e.g., leave their 0K/year job to go back to school? Do they see it as a job, a vocation, or are they primarily motivated by climbing the career ladder? Key goals of a first date are to (a) see if you have a connection, and (b) find out if you and your date have any major areas of incompatibility. Why: Does the person have strong feelings or are they more easygoing and with milder feelings. If you’re an avid bookworm and someone tells you, “I don’t really read, LOL,” it might be a bit of a red flag.Hopefully that doesn’t happen, but even if you’re super into movies and TV more so than books, figure out a film or show you have in common.If you’re using a dating app, this is even easier because if it gets weird, you can duck out easily.And though it can be tricky to navigate just how deep to ask your questions without seeming weird, chances are, the other person is wondering the same stuff about you.Last week we ended with the Secret Ingredient that Ties Top Teams Together, where the bottom line is that people need to really know each other before they can become a high performing team. Speed dating A non evasive team building activity to kick off discussions about personal relationships is a speed dating exercise in which you request team members to answer a number of different speed dating questions.When team members have understood and accepted the power of disclosure I do a number of team building activities that helps them get everything together. Example of some of these questions are: The answers to these questions are often fun and more importantly very revealing what the person is about and provides a great 2.
This exercise as well as the next two exercises can’t be done straight of the bat and require some team gestation time. Mask Exercise This exercise asks participants to draw one of the mask they wear.
We’re wired so that once we start to develop an emotional attachment this is hard to break away from. Why: Different vacation preferences or amounts of vacation time can be a major source of ongoing incompatibility. Why: This question helps establish if your date has a positive or negative attitude? Why: Helps you find out the person's preferences and also helps you establish if the person has any free time or if they're a workaholic.
Find out early if there are reasons that “making it work” will be fraught. Select a few of these questions rather than attempt to ask them all on the same first date! For example, if one person likes to take very long trips and the other person has a more standard two weeks vacation time. If asking this question leads to five solid minutes of them complaining you'll know the person sees the glass as half empty. Why: When you enter a relationship with someone you’re also entering a relationship with their friends. Why: If one of you doesn't like pets and the other has 3 dogs, that's likely to be a problem.
Tegan, of the Canadian twin-sister duo we absolutely adore, Tegan & Sara, took over their fan site’s blog Wednesday. While they are correct in thinking that, we are also working a few minutes a day on new songs. For Tegan's complete post, check out the Tegan & Sara website.
With tons of pressure weighing on her to produce a stellar post, Tegan looks to the fans for inspiration. Sara’s posts have been very entertaining and informative, but giving your fans a voice and allowing yourself to be made vulnerable by such invasive questions – GENIUS! They also have a vault of entertaining You Tube videos you can get lost in!